If something is meant to be, It will happen. In the right time, with the right person and for the best reasons.
“Look at the picture“- My mom said.
Picture? Who is he and Why are you showing me his picture? And What are you thinking mom? I remember asking my mom all these questions in one go.
“They are coming to see you in few days so we also need your photograph to take it forward.” My mom announced.
I was in my final year of masters and as there were no talks of marriage at home, I was quite surprised at the sudden announcement by my mom.
I believe that arranged marriage is not the proclamation it once was. It has advanced and evolved over the years into a meeting of mutual consent between both sides but the problem was that I was not ready at that time.
I still remember that awkward first meeting in which only he was talking and I was just listening and nodding my head. After few days, and an approval from their side, I was still afraid of the full situation as for me studies were more important. I was really hovering in between resentment and apprehension after that.
“Why are you so confused? He is a good boy with a good job and we also know the family.” Asked my mom.
“I want to meet him again“, I announced it to her.
At that moment only my studies were my priority. I thought of talking to my mom. So, I decided to meet him again to ask him few questions. Also, deciding my whole life on the basis of only one meeting seemed unfair to me.
A second meeting was scheduled and we met at one of my relatives house and I geared up for the awkwardness again.
“I want to finish my Post graduation without any problem and hope you will let me do that.” I blurted out as soon as he sat.
Much to my surprise, he looked at me and started laughing. And I looked at him with confusion. He finally told me that when I asked for a second meeting, he and his family thought there was something really urgent which I want to share with him.
“I thought you have someone else in your life and you wanted to share it with me. I have no problem as far as your studies are concerned. In fact, I want you to finish them and take your time. I am not in any hurry and will never stop you from pursuing further studies even after marriage.” He was talking and I was just looking at him, listening to him with amazement.
The prospects for the evening began to look up. Perhaps it would not be as difficult as I had thought. He was really concerned about my feelings and I was moved by his thoughtfulness and concern.
We married after few months of this meeting and now it’s been a wonderful journey of 15 years. The best part in our marriage is that he believes in me when I tend to doubt myself and love me for what I am.
So, this was my story of finding Mr. Right after being confused and hesitant. But now after 15 years of marriage, I see it differently altogether and as they say, the rest is history. 🙂
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