Affection- A feeling of love, care, and fondness. I am writing my first post about affection between a child and a parent.

My theme for #AtoZ challenge is ‘MY LEARNINGS FROM PARENTING’. I am going to share with you all my thoughts and views as a mom from my personal experiences. I hope to help other moms and also learn from them through this challenge.

 

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We are all trying to be best parents to our kids but are not sure of many things ourselves.

All parents are good, all parents want best for their child, right? Then, where do they go wrong?

My elder one who is a teenager now was a very affectionate child from the starting. But, she doesn’t like too much display of affection. On the other hand, my younger one loves to give me a hug and loves cuddling like a baby.

Now the question is why are they different? I don’t know but all I know is they both love us but their way of showing affection is different.

How much affection is okay? Is it okay to shower affection and attention on kids all the time?

There are many such questions and when I look around, I find different answers. I am sharing with you all my point of view as a parent and as a teacher who has dealt with many different types of parents.

  • It is not good to smother your kid with a lot of affection and attention all the time. Give him some space and let him learn certain things himself.
  • Too much affection can make them weak. I feel a child should experience both, good and bad. Let him experience different shades of life and be prepared for anything in life.
  • Emotional independence is important. Being over protective as mothers can make our kids more attached to and clingy to us.

I know, it’s easier said than done, but I also learnt this with time and with experience. My younger one got hurt many times as a baby as she was a very restless child.  And they were all major hurts like she got stitches in her fingers when she was just one year old. When she was almost two and a half, she got hurt from a swing and got stitches on her head.

I became an overprotective mom because of all this and didn’t realise it until recently when I saw a difference between her and my elder one.

I immediately decided to step back and let her become emotionally independent.

 

As they say, “Letting go doesn’t mean, you don’t love them.” Sometimes it’s important to take a step back and set them free.

Do you have any such stories to share? Waiting to hear from you.