B for Believe
Believing is trust, faith, confidence and a feeling of acceptance for something without proof.
My parents believed in all of us and I don’t remember any such incident where they questioned us for anything. My mom always used to say, “Do whatever makes you happy, but keep us informed. So, that if you are going on a wrong path, we can guide you.”
Today when I am a mom myself, I sometimes wonder- How did my parents handle everything so smoothly?
They instilled a feeling of honesty in us and I don’t remember lying to my mom ever. I and my siblings knew a difference between right and wrong. We knew that we should avoid doing the things which can make our parents unhappy.
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As a mom myself, I try not to question my kids all the time and show them that we believe in them.
A few days back, my teen had to go for a friend’s birthday party where they all planned going to a mall without parents. This mall is very near to our place and we all were okay with them spending some time in the mall. As much as I was tempted to go and follow her around, I stopped myself.
When she came back, she told, “Mom! Do you know there was a spy mom in the mall?”
Apparently, one of her friend’s mom was in the mall and was keeping an eye on them. And her friend was very embarrassed to see her mom following them everywhere.
I understand it’s easier said than done but we need to give our kids some space and also learn to trust them. Being overprotective is not going to help anybody. I am going to write more about being over protective in one of my next posts.
It is important to remember these points about believing your kids-
I believe in my kids and trying to follow the lessons my mom taught me. Do you believe in your kids?
Believing and trusting can make them confident and can help them to go through any competitions in life with a smile. Read about competition in my next post. Stay tuned. 🙂
You can read A for Affection here.
April 3, 2017 at 10:02 am
Trusting them and guiding children is important.All good lessons can be taught at home ,but they need to learn to choose too .A wonderful tip about parenting Deepa
April 3, 2017 at 10:15 am
Thank you Amrita 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 10:06 am
Over-protection is often perceived by kids as interference and lack of belief in them. Well put!!
April 3, 2017 at 10:15 am
Thanks Deepali 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 10:40 am
You wrote what I have always believed in when I parent my girls. I think the day you start doubting and questioning their integrity you distance them from yourself. What a wonderful reminder Deepa. Thank you for sharing.
Have a great AtoZ journey this 2017.
April 3, 2017 at 12:28 pm
Thanks Natasha ..glad you can relate to it.:)
April 3, 2017 at 11:06 am
I completely agree with you. My mom always gave me my freedom when growing up. I just needed to tell her where i’ll be. And she’s all fine. When our parents trust us, we find it very difficult to break that trust and that will keep us from doing all the wrong things.
April 3, 2017 at 12:29 pm
Thanks for reading Sheethal 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 12:33 pm
I always struggle with this. I want to be able to give them space, and find it hard to let go. Thankfully, the children show the way. Thanks for this, it hits straight home.
April 3, 2017 at 1:32 pm
Thanks Lalita 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 1:38 pm
True that! I always have that feeling, of how did my parents do it. Believe is a small word with amazing results.
April 3, 2017 at 1:43 pm
Thanks Neha 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 5:58 pm
You have given all valid points Deepa. My mother always trusted me and that made me easier to share even my fears with her.
April 3, 2017 at 6:36 pm
Thanks Geethica 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 6:20 pm
I’m loving your theme, Deepa. Though I am not a parent yet, these tips and pointers are giving me some goals I should be keeping in mind!
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April 3, 2017 at 6:37 pm
Thanks a lot Shalini. Glad you liked it. 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 6:28 pm
Deepa, i have always believed that you bring up your children how you were brought up. So this post wasn’t a surprise. You are a sensible and practical Mom, along with being loads of fun and that is evident in your relationship with your children.
I am loving your theme, and posts.
April 3, 2017 at 6:39 pm
Thanks a lot Mayuri for your kind words. It is really encouraging. Hugs 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 6:40 pm
That was a wise decision to not go to the mall and I’m sure after you learned the spy mom’s story you must be even more relieved of not going. I totally second with your thoughts Deepa, it is really important to trust the child otherwise they have this negative feeling in them, a feeling that says no one would ever believe them to whatever they say!
April 3, 2017 at 7:29 pm
Thanks Geetika 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 7:56 pm
True, its very important to believe in your children and often let them know that you trust them. That lays the foundation of a healthy relationship. I had written a post on my blog on teenagers needing space. Sharing it here since its relevant:
Nice to see your blog, will visit again. Good Luck!
April 3, 2017 at 8:15 pm
Thanks I will surely visit as I also have a teen at home 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 10:20 pm
I still can’t believe a mom would do that! But given the times we are in I probably can understand that mom wanted her kid and friends to be safe. I wish she was not spotted by the kids!
April 3, 2017 at 10:31 pm
I know Tina..we want our kids to be safe but it is important to give them space too. Its all about balance which we learn with time. Thanks.
April 3, 2017 at 10:23 pm
Very important to trust your kids, I think. I definitely want to be that parent when I have children.
April 3, 2017 at 10:32 pm
Thanks for reading Alex 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 11:29 pm
I guess the belief is what makes the kids stay honest, and the kids being honest is what keeps the belief. Sort of like the chicken and egg riddle!
April 3, 2017 at 11:59 pm
Agree..Thanks Mithila 🙂
April 3, 2017 at 11:41 pm
This is a very important factor to keep any relation alive and healthy. My parents believed in us and at the same time showed us the difference between a right and a wrong. I also hope and pray keeping the same bonding between my baby and me.
April 4, 2017 at 12:00 am
We all want that kind of relation with our kids. Thanks Neha 🙂
April 4, 2017 at 11:16 pm
It’s hard sometimes to trust the kids, specially when they’re young. But yeah, slowly I think we need to show our trust in them or else they’ll never learn to believe in themselves. Thought provoking post Deepa.
April 5, 2017 at 11:09 am