“Do you keep the woman in you alive after becoming a mom?” I asked few moms with small kids this question a few days back.
I got some interesting replies and here is what they all had to say-
Honestly, no idea. Don’t have time for anything else. – Veena, mom of 2 kids 3 and 7.
The days I get to comb my hair I feel a lot like a woman and less of a beast: D – Mincy, Mom of a 3 months old baby boy Nivin
The day I can go relax at the parlour feels heavenly though those days are so less 🙁 – Neharika, Mom of a 2 and a half baby girl.
I keep the girl in me alive by doing random things that girls like doing- Shopping, desserts, makeup, lipsticks, chitchat, romance fictions etc.– Tina Basu, mom of 18 months old Bluey.
I keep the woman in me alive by listening carefully what my heart tells me. The search for answers keeps my mind fresh plus I never forget to have fun in whatever I do. Girls just want to have fun, serious fun. – Amrita, mom of a 5-year-old girl.
I know it’s easier said than done but it is important for moms to take some time out and relax. In my earlier post, I gave some tips for moms to be a girl again. It is important for a mom to be happy and relaxed if she wants her family to be happy.
A stressed mom means a stressed and unhappy family. Here are few things which you can do to keep the woman in you alive.
- Take a break and go out shopping. Believe me, retail therapy really helps. It is a stress buster too.
- Meet friends for a cup of tea or coffee. Chit chat sessions with your girlfriends can really lift you up.
- Join a hobby class like dancing, Zumba, Painting, or anything you love to do. A creative outlet can help you become a calm mommy.
- Go to a spa or visit a salon once in a while. You need to take out time for this as I know it’s not easy to think of yourself when you have a baby at home.
- Stop feeling guilty. I think we moms feel guilty about everything and that can us unhappy too. You are not a bad mom if you take out some time for yourself.
There are many things that keep me alive as a woman but one thing which tops the list is dancing. I not only teach and choreograph for kids but for ladies too. The best part is encouraging other moms to dance and perform. We have a group called, “Dance moms” which has moms from the age group 35 to 48. This keeps me sane and happy.
What do you do to keep the woman in you alive?
Last week’s featured blogger for #MondayMommyMoments is Preethi.
We also announced our monthly winner who is our consistent writer- Dipika. She will be receiving goodies from us soon.
March 6, 2017 at 11:50 am
We mothers generally have a huge bag of guilt for everything we do or are not able to do. It is necessary to let go of the guilt to enjoy one’s life, as a woman and as a mother. This prompt speaks to me because I have seen and bore too much on this mother
March 6, 2017 at 12:03 pm
Yes..mothers have to stop feeling guilty all the time and enjoy once in awhile. Thanks Anamika 🙂
March 6, 2017 at 11:52 am
*motherhood journey. I hope to join but I have a crazy schedule this week.
March 6, 2017 at 12:02 pm
No worries Anamika. Do join if possible. The linky is open till Saturday. 🙂
March 6, 2017 at 12:02 pm
It’s important for a mom to look after herself too. When Bluey was born I was in that state of no combing, no rest days but then i hated looking at myself in the mirror. It’s important to feel good inside! Wonderful prompt Deepa.
March 6, 2017 at 12:05 pm
I know its not easy especially when the kids are small. But a break in between is good for a mom. Thanks Tina..glad you liked it 🙂
March 6, 2017 at 12:09 pm
Dance Moms sounds like an awesome group to be a part of. It’s very easy to lose oneself in the routine of taking care of the family. Glad to see that these days moms are becoming more active in other activities and keeping their spirits alive too.
March 6, 2017 at 12:13 pm
Yes Raj..I love dancing and it helps me in a lot of ways. Thanks for stopping by 🙂
March 6, 2017 at 1:15 pm
My stress busters are my hobbies like painting, cooking, creative dancing. So I try to keep the woman in myself alive by doing all the above mentioned things. Also it’s v important for a woman once in a while to go for meets & retail shopping. No matter how busy days are going with our toddlers we should take out time to feel good & make our family happy
March 6, 2017 at 1:30 pm
Very good points Soma. Creative outlets and meeting friends are good way of getting a break. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us 🙂
March 6, 2017 at 4:46 pm
Thanks Deepa for quoting me .This is such a fun prompt bit very difficult at the same time.Life runs away if we don’t grab it
March 6, 2017 at 5:36 pm
Yes Amrita..I strongly believe its important to enjoy along the way. Thanks for reading 🙂
March 6, 2017 at 8:36 pm
I enjoy little things in life to keep woman in me alive !!! Lovely post it was, Deepa !!!
March 6, 2017 at 10:03 pm
Thanks vasantha 🙂
March 7, 2017 at 12:19 pm
This is yet again a fabulous choice of topic Deepa and Amrita- and as Women’s Day is just a day away- I think this is a much needed conversation we moms need to have with ourselves. Its important to be selfish if thats what its called- stop placing yourself last. Cant tell you how much I loved writing on this prompt
March 7, 2017 at 4:15 pm
Thanks a lot Akshata. Glad you liked the prompt and linked with us. 🙂
March 7, 2017 at 6:34 pm
These are excellent points for all women.. so important to take time, be happy and relax!
March 7, 2017 at 11:17 pm
Thanks a lot Isheeria..glad you liked it 🙂
March 8, 2017 at 11:27 am
I think I am honoring the woman in me lately more than I used to. I guard my me-time seriously. I am loving myself more than I used to. I have written about this and linked my post here. Happy women’s day!
March 8, 2017 at 3:58 pm
Thats nice Preethi. It is important to love yourself. Thanks for linking up with us.
March 11, 2017 at 5:46 pm
It is great to know that you choreograph ladies also and carry forward the happiness from one woman to many. Loved reading your post Deepa.
March 13, 2017 at 12:29 am
Yes Geethica..I love dancing with dancing moms. Thanks for stopping by..glad you liked it.
March 11, 2017 at 11:25 pm
Awesome points Deepa, stress busters… we all need them!! A super read as always..
March 13, 2017 at 12:30 am
Thanks Dipika 🙂
March 19, 2017 at 4:14 pm
Agree to your pointers
March 19, 2017 at 4:47 pm
Thanks