“This dress is not fitting me, I knew I gained weight. I need to lose this belly fat as it makes me look like a fatty mom.” Mira told her husband while getting ready for a party. As usual, Anirudh didn’t pay much attention to her as he was busy on his laptop. But someone was paying attention to everything she told. The little Ria was looking at her mom and listening to everything she said.
Ria is an 11-year-old daughter of Mira and Anirudh who loves getting dressed, trying her mom’s makeup and also looking herself in the mirror. Her mom Mira is a famous fashion designer and sometimes models for her brand too. She is pretty, tall and with a fair complexion. On the other hand, Ria has dusky skin tone and has always been a little chubby right from childhood.
Mira would often knowingly or unknowingly comment on how Ria looks and how she should take care of herself so that she looks pretty when she grows up. Ria is a very creative child who excels in studies too and wins many prizes for her art in school. But Mira would never appreciate her creativity while talking to her as her only concern is Ria’s looks. She would get Ria all kinds of creams and face packs to apply on her face to improve her complexion or give her diet tips to lose weight.
As a result of all this obsession to look good at home, Ria grew up as someone with low confidence, health issues due to dieting at a young age to impress her mom and look like her. She believes how she looks is more important than who she is.
This is a real story of someone I know and it breaks my heart to see young girls going through such issues of body shaming at home itself. You need to teach your daughters that looks are not the single most important factor which determines your worth.
- Teach them to eat healthily, dress well, take care of their health, and focus on their strength.
- Tell them they are beautiful the way they are and they don’t need any approval from anyone.
- Teach them to be proud of whatever they do and be happy in what they have or don’t have.
- While talking to your girls, Instead of commenting on their looks, ask about their studies, interests, and other related stuff.
- Never talk about your own body issues in front of your girls. They grow up thinking that any flaws with the body are not acceptable.
- Its all about changing the way you talk to your daughter. A slight change and you can help your daughter to be a confident young girl.
- When you talk to your daughters, teach them the right definition of true beauty. It’s about what’s inside and not what’s outside.
It’s time to embrace the true beauty and teach our daughters to celebrate true beauty. The girls should know the value of who they are and not how they look. Of course, looking good matters but it’s not the only determinant of your character or your talents. One must look good to feel good and feel confident about themselves but not for anyone else.
It’s time to change the way you talk to your daughters.
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*The story shared above is a true story and names are changed to hide the identity.