“Enjoy your sleep till the little one comes.”
“Welcome to sleepless nights.”
“Sleep is a thing of the past and you are never going to get that sleep again.”
These are few things which people used to say when I was expecting my first one. Luckily, she never bothered us for sleeping or eating or anything. She was a very good sleeper and a calm child. But when my second one was born, I remembered everything people used to say about sleepless nights with kids.
I used to rock her on my lap and every time, I put her down, she used to cry loudly. I tried to swing, rocking bassinet, rocking chair etc. but with her, nothing used to work.
So, I had a good sleeper and a bad sleeper.
Luckily, they both started sleeping nicely throughout the night by the time they were toddlers but there were still some tough times in between. Younger one would wake up in between and ask us if she could sleep with us till she was 8. Sometimes, she used to call us 4-5 times for some or the other reason.
Mom! I need water.
Mom! I heard something, I am scared! Can I sleep with you?
Dad! I am not feeling sleepy! Can I read a book?
Dad! This fan is making some noise, Can you fix it?
I think you got the idea. 🙂
Tips for babies –
Make the bed time a very soothing and calm ritual. Massage them, give them a bath, make them wear a soft cotton sleep suit and sing them a lullaby. Make sure they are not hungry and they are not uncomfortable in any way.
Tips for age 3+ kids-
I am sharing few ways which we tried to make the bed time ritual smooth and better. I am not saying these worked every time but mostly it worked.
- No late dinners– Avoid giving them food or anything to drink just before the bed. Heavy food just before sleep time is going to make them uneasy and of course going to keep them awake. On the other hand, make sure they are not hungry too as they will be getting up in between to bother you. Make sure to avoid too many carbs or sugar loaded food items at night too.
- No video games or TV– Do not allow any TV or video games just before sleep time. Reading is still a better option. It’s ok if they want to read a little before sleeping.
- Story time– My husband is the story teller in our house. He is the one who told bed time stories to our daughters every day when they were small. I am really bad at making up stories and he is really creative that way. He used to cook up imaginative stories and kids loved it. I still remember my elder one used to ask for a squirrel story every day. It was the same story every day and she used to laugh at the same thing every day too. Story time is a good sleep time ritual. You can even read a story from one of their favourite books.
- Talk to them– My daily ritual is to talk to both of them before bed and then tuck them and kiss good night. Try talking to your kids and asking them things about their school and other things they did with friends etc.
- Routine- There is no set routine till the time they start school. Make sure they do not sleep for too many hours during the day. Let them play and get tired for a good night’s sleep. Once the school starts, the set routine helps.
- Physical activity– Kids sleep better with a lot of good physical activity during the day.
Remember it’s a phase- Last but not least, remember that it’s a phase and you are not going to be sleep deprived for the rest of your life. Try sleeping when the baby sleeps and ask for help from family and friends. Our younger one is an incredible sleeper now. 🙂
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How do you put your kids to bed or what are your sleep time rituals or suggestions? Do share with other moms.
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July 31, 2017 at 3:53 pm
We make bed time interesting by story time and also by chanting the gayatri mantra
July 31, 2017 at 4:30 pm
Gayatri mantra chanting is good too. Thanks Udita.
July 31, 2017 at 4:09 pm
Very helpful tips. I follow a few.
July 31, 2017 at 4:30 pm
Thanks
July 31, 2017 at 4:16 pm
Love those tips Deepa! I will be linking up soon! And the physical activity does tire them out so it’s good to keep our babies busy:)
July 31, 2017 at 4:30 pm
Thanks Zainab
July 31, 2017 at 5:01 pm
Some great tips there Deepa.Your experience will be a big help for new moms.I try to do exactly what you have adviced.
July 31, 2017 at 6:14 pm
Thanks Amrita
July 31, 2017 at 5:20 pm
You have shared some very good tips. Just like yours, mine one also asks me for the same story every day. She remembers it very well but even then keeps asking me for the same story again and again.
July 31, 2017 at 6:14 pm
Thanks vidhi
July 31, 2017 at 5:54 pm
Some very practical and useful tips, Deepa. Should really help Mom’s.
July 31, 2017 at 6:15 pm
Thanks for stopping by Mayuri.
July 31, 2017 at 7:54 pm
Great tips! My parents used to always try to wear us out, and it works like a treat, always remember getting read to before bed too – always loved that
July 31, 2017 at 9:21 pm
Thank you
July 31, 2017 at 8:59 pm
Thankfully my son was a good sleeper..He never gave me sleepless nights
July 31, 2017 at 9:23 pm
Lucky you! Thanks Balaka.
July 31, 2017 at 10:26 pm
I agree that routine is the key! Kids are creatures of habit and like to have stability. They need to know what to expect and when… Finally, consistency is the key! Following routine and consistency is what will get them used to regular sleeping habits (along with the other good tips that you suggested).
July 31, 2017 at 10:29 pm
Yes ..Consistency is the key. A habit formation makes it easier. Thanks Pam.
August 1, 2017 at 12:31 am
This is great to keep in mind. When my kids were small I did always read to them. It helped to wind them down. My daughter could be more difficult though. She’d suddenly get thirsty/hungry/have the need to breakdance and I’ve have to remind her that it was time to sleep like 2348972 times.
August 1, 2017 at 1:03 am
I already follow the relaxing bath and fresh night dress routine for my 11 month old. But great tips for when they’re older too. I will try to remember those. But story time sounds super fun. I used to love listening to stories from my Dadi so I cannot wait to continue that tradition.
August 1, 2017 at 2:54 am
we never sleep without reading a book and lullaby
August 1, 2017 at 4:18 pm
Great..Thanks.
August 1, 2017 at 6:28 am
Great tips! Definitely a routine helps but as you said every kid is different. Sometimes my son sleeps like an angel and other times its so hard to get him to bed!
August 1, 2017 at 4:18 pm
Yes ..kids never fail to surprise us. Thanks Julie
August 1, 2017 at 6:48 am
It’s so cute that she listens and laugh at the same story again and again. Kids are so adorable. But I can imagine what a difficult time it must be for you with all the sleepless nights. Wonderful points there. I like that you talk to them before sleep, which is really good it cementing the bond.
August 1, 2017 at 4:19 pm
Yes Raj..I like talking to them before they sleep. Thanks for stopping by. Glad you liked the points.
August 1, 2017 at 9:36 am
This tips are amamzing for a good bed time routine. We do follow a routine since 5 years and That routine has helped us get my daughter in a habit to sleep at 10.00 pm. Thanks for sharing.
August 1, 2017 at 4:20 pm
Yes a set routine always helps.
August 1, 2017 at 10:12 am
I totally agree with the routine part of making kids sleep.
August 1, 2017 at 4:20 pm
Thank you.
August 1, 2017 at 11:40 am
Luckily never have to do much effort with my kids on the part of sleep. They are great with their sleeping routine. And really its very important that they should have a sound sleep on daily routine for their proper growth and development
August 1, 2017 at 4:21 pm
Thats great..you are lucky. Thanks for reading.
August 1, 2017 at 1:15 pm
Those are some great tips!! I totally agree with an early dinner… I´m not a child anymore but I don´t sleep very well with a full stomach
August 1, 2017 at 4:21 pm
Thanks Stefanie.
August 1, 2017 at 3:56 pm
earlier bed time means a trolling time for me – inside/outside of room zillion times and so many pee breaks. But thank goodness her school timings & activities bring out all excess energy and she sleeps on time.
Will share mine in the post soon. Loved your routine so perfect
August 1, 2017 at 4:22 pm
Thanks Dipika..waiting to read your thoughts on the same.
August 1, 2017 at 4:07 pm
This is so important to make the kids sleep time easy. All the more because what they sleep on is what they will wake up with. Happy state of mind makes a lot of difference.
August 1, 2017 at 4:22 pm
Yes Rakhi. Thanks.
August 1, 2017 at 7:11 pm
Karma was a great sleeper as a baby and was sleep trained at 1.5 months. Now she’s 2 years and 5 months and fighting sleep with all her might. We are trying story telling and follow the rest of stuff you have mentioned. But getting her to agree to lie down is the problem…lol! Eventually she falls asleep but I’m going to keep trying your story telling tip to get her to come to bed. ?
August 1, 2017 at 10:28 pm
Haha..I know its easier said than done. Thanks Shubhreet
August 1, 2017 at 8:11 pm
absolutely agree with the physical activity part – kids get exhausted and that really gives them an opportunity to channelize their energy and sleep well 🙂
August 1, 2017 at 10:29 pm
Thanks Mummasaurus
August 2, 2017 at 6:55 pm
Storytime does work well as a night time ritual. I know that with my daughter if I engaged with her before bed and told a story it always helped her relax and sleep better.
August 2, 2017 at 7:12 pm
Thank you
August 2, 2017 at 6:57 pm
I fall asleep easier when I go weights in the evening. My body is already physically tired and it helps lull me right to sleep. I prefer to cardio in the mornings.
August 2, 2017 at 7:13 pm
Super.
August 4, 2017 at 8:41 am
Great tips all. One that I can add is that once the girls are slightly older, all you have to do is shut the light and close the door behind them and they are only too happy to gossip in the dark till they fall asleep!
August 5, 2017 at 2:03 pm
Oh they still do it as they are grown up now. Thanks for reading 🙂
August 5, 2017 at 5:17 pm
A routine has helps to much extent. And rest on the behaviour of the child.
August 5, 2017 at 9:45 pm
Thanks Geethica
August 6, 2017 at 11:03 am
Loved the post Deepa, we again match in many tips – probably due to our Leo signs 😉
I too follow early dinner story time and some move those limbs to get rid of excess energy. Thanks for sharing
August 6, 2017 at 11:26 am
Thankyou Dipika 🙂
August 6, 2017 at 5:43 pm
Deepa , exactly the same story this side when it comes to story telling. My husband is the creative head at making up stories. I can only read from a book …lol..
August 6, 2017 at 6:27 pm
Oh Thats nice..Thanks.