Motherhood is something that changed me completely. It is like a box full of surprises that bring many ups and downs in the journey of being a mom. There are many mom challenges at different stages of life.
One thing which I learnt from my motherhood journey- Expect the unexpected.
When my daughters were small, I always thought, once they grow up things would be easier. But as a mom of a teenager, let me tell you something, every stage has its own challenges. Now seriously, sometimes I feel, it was easier when they were babies.
Challenges as a mom of a newborn baby-
I think this is a very overwhelming phase. On one side moms are happy to hold the little bundle of joy in their arms and on the other hand, this new phase drains them out. I didn’t have my mom or mom-in-law nearby, so it was like ‘on the job training’ for me. So, I learnt to be a mom with many trials and errors. The first few days with the baby are pretty hard as you are sleep deprived, you don’t look like you, and you feel alone.
The first few days with the baby are pretty hard as you are sleep deprived, you don’t look like you, and you feel alone.
Challenges as a mom of a toddler- Terrible twos are really terrible and my younger one gave me a hard time when she was two. There are tantrums and mood swings which are difficult to handle at times.
They also start preschool around this time and on one hand, it is a relief for moms but it is also hard. We worry for them when they start school and I think we keep on worrying even when they grow up.
Challenges as a mom of a tween and a teen-
I have a tween and a teen at home and believe me this is the most challenging phase till now. This is a stage that is surely going to make you emotional, happy, tired, worried, and overwhelmed, and a lot of other things.
Sometimes, they will surprise you with their witty answers and sometimes they will act as babies.
Hardest part of motherhood according to me in all these phases –
- Not knowing if you are doing right or wrong.
- Some degree of guilt that we moms always face.
- Dealing with our own emotions.
- Never-ending worry for something or the other.
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Motherhood is surely hard but if you ask me about my decision of being a mom and if I regret anything, I would say NO! My daughters are my pride and no matter how hard it is or how hard it is going to be after this, I love being a mom. 🙂
I would love to hear your thoughts about it. WHAT IS THE HARDEST PART OF MOTHERHOOD ACCORDING TO YOU?
July 24, 2017 at 10:42 am
The guilt is always there for everyone.Strange though,when we all try so hard.I think we all learn on the job as mothers .No two child is same .Its the biggest blessing and the toughest test.
July 25, 2017 at 9:58 am
Thanks Amrita
July 24, 2017 at 12:15 pm
Very well summarized Deepa.! The worst thing is the guilt that keeps nagging you all the time if you are doing the right thing for your kid. I just can’t stop wondering about what else could I do to make my kids life better
July 25, 2017 at 9:59 am
Yes Anupriya..whatever we do..we moms feel guilty for some or the other thing. Thanks For reading.
July 24, 2017 at 7:59 pm
Being a mum is for sure the most important and hardest job ever. I love how you wrote this post so honest and also helpful
July 25, 2017 at 10:08 am
Thank you
July 24, 2017 at 8:11 pm
It can be an adventure, that’s for sure. I also have a teen and a tween. Dealing with their attitude can be tough. But I do like that they sleep more 😉
July 25, 2017 at 10:08 am
Haha..Yes they surely do! Thanks Amber.
July 24, 2017 at 8:29 pm
I’m not a mother but as you have mentioned, each stage will have its own challenges. What’s important is that you feel in your heart you are doing what you feel is right and I am sure your kids are great.
July 25, 2017 at 10:38 am
Yes ..Thanks Courtney
July 24, 2017 at 9:09 pm
I’m not a mother but I can see how difficult it can be. I was not the best teenager ever and definitly put my mom on an emotional roller coaster during that time. But thankfully I great out of it and it was smooth sailing after 17 lol.
July 25, 2017 at 10:40 am
I am experiencing all this with my teenager. :)Thanks.
July 25, 2017 at 7:13 am
Just like you said, every stage of parenting has it’s challenges. And the fact is, a mother’s love and fear never really goes away. So no matter what age, we as moms will always worry and stress about our child’s well being. That’s why its the toughest job in the world! 😉
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July 25, 2017 at 10:42 am
Agree Shubhreet. Thanks.
July 25, 2017 at 8:57 am
Thanks for that gorgeous certificate. Hope to link up this week too.
July 25, 2017 at 10:45 am
Thanks Tulika..looking forward. 🙂
July 25, 2017 at 9:04 am
Being a mom is definitely the most difficult job in the world. It is challenging to guide, support and nurture our little ones in every stage of their lives, but we strive to do it as best as we could because seeing them become strong, confident individuals is the best reward there is.
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July 25, 2017 at 10:45 am
Yes Mae..Thank you.
July 25, 2017 at 9:46 am
Mom’s should always be ready with Plan B. Kids may demand anything at anytime. I remember My mom use to say once you will become mom you will understand.
July 25, 2017 at 10:47 am
Yes we only understood after we became moms. Thanks Jiya.
July 25, 2017 at 9:56 am
Motherhood ia challenging that’s so true we learn as we progress. Loved the way you explained the challenges faced via twos.. tweeny & teeny, I can just imagine as mine is only 5 and already having a super tough time.
July 25, 2017 at 10:51 am
Long way to go dipika but the best part is we not only learn but we grow too with our kids. Enjoy this phase as once they grow up..you will miss this phase. 🙂
July 25, 2017 at 12:16 pm
True I agree 🙂
July 25, 2017 at 10:15 am
Feels so nyc to read thia. Beautifully narrated, capturing every emotion.
July 25, 2017 at 3:04 pm
Thanks Debolina
July 25, 2017 at 10:40 am
I am sure there are so many challenges you face as a mother. At every stage of a child there is something new and every child is also different.
July 25, 2017 at 3:04 pm
Thank you
July 25, 2017 at 11:46 am
Every phase of mothering period is full of challenges. The more you go in this the more you learn. Its a great experience also.
July 25, 2017 at 3:05 pm
Thanks
July 25, 2017 at 12:01 pm
Oh I so agree with you, each phase has its own challanged. I am currently going through a hurricane of toddler tantrum. Motherhood has its own challanges but it’s worth every second. ❤❤❤
July 25, 2017 at 3:08 pm
Thank you
July 25, 2017 at 1:15 pm
Very right motherhood is challenging but rewarding…I love it’s challenges
July 25, 2017 at 3:09 pm
Thank you
July 25, 2017 at 7:41 pm
Only being a daughter, I’m going to say yes! I’m not a mom yet and I’m am always amazed at how incredible moms are. In my eyes, mom = superwoman.
July 25, 2017 at 10:08 pm
Thank you Nadalie
July 25, 2017 at 9:31 pm
I am so on the same boat. I am a new mom and mostly doing it alone with little or no help. Most days are overwhelming and I have no idea what I’m doing, but this on-the-job training is the best because nothing can prepare you for motherhood than actually being a mom. And don’t get me started on the guilt. That’s as much a part of motherhood as the cuddles.
July 25, 2017 at 10:09 pm
Thanks Nikita..glad you could relate to the post. 🙂
July 25, 2017 at 10:00 pm
Tantrums have been the hardest for us. And one needs a lot of patience. I’m guilty of losing it sometimes and not handling it correctly!
July 25, 2017 at 10:10 pm
I think we all are guilty of losing it at times. Thanks.
July 25, 2017 at 10:26 pm
For me, the answer of this question changes everyday. Some day I find it easy and the other day it is such a test for me. I would love to write for this prompt. Hope full to link it soon.
July 25, 2017 at 11:12 pm
Thanks Shipra..looking forward to it.
July 26, 2017 at 9:10 am
I’m not a mom but I do agree that motherhood is difficult. Hats off to all the moms for their incredible sacrifices to make everything looks just perfect!
July 26, 2017 at 1:04 pm
Loved reading the post… yes motherhood is tough at every stage. For me the most challenging bit has been dealing with guilt inspite of giving my 100%
July 27, 2017 at 2:16 pm
This is spot on, Every stage comes with different challenges and the onus of maintaining the fine balance between the child’s well-being and mother’s happiness is very important.
July 27, 2017 at 3:07 pm
Thanks Neha
July 28, 2017 at 1:30 am
So agree with all the points- guilt, uncertainty, knowing what we are doing is right or not. Have been through all this and still do, at times. Motherhood isn’t easy at all. But in spite of all these challenges its the most rewarding and fulfilling role.
July 28, 2017 at 4:11 pm
Exactly..Thanks.
July 28, 2017 at 6:00 pm
I agree with you that there is no stage in motherhood when you feel relaxed; when you feel that when they will grow up, it will be better. Every stage has its own challenges. It is only, we the mothers, who need to be wiser day by day.
July 28, 2017 at 7:21 pm
YeS Geethica. We become wiser with each stage but its an ongoing learning process. Thanks 🙂
July 30, 2017 at 5:45 pm
I relate to this post on there is no right & wrong thing in motherhood plus we don’t get any rulebook passed on in legacy from our moms 😉
On the job training and guilt is a killer at times. Lovely post Deepa
July 30, 2017 at 6:21 pm
Thanks Dipika
July 30, 2017 at 8:26 pm
Oh yes..I am so scared about how will I be as a mom of a teen ..fingers crossed ..