Motherhood is the best feeling in the world. Being a mom is not an easy job but kudos to all the moms out there who do it effortlessly and with a smile. I love being a mom but it also has its ups and downs especially the guilt factor. Don’t you sometimes look back and think, “I could have done this better” or “I could have done it the other way?” So there are things I wish I knew about motherhood before.
I must tell you that I do feel this way but the good news is that in spite of the guilt factor, every mom is doing a great job. The ‘ifs and buts’ do not make you any less of a mom.
I am sharing few things which I wish I knew about motherhood before-
- Do not expect similarity in kids – No two kids are the same and this one is directly from my personal experience. Both my girls are very different from each other. One is an extrovert but a calm child but the younger one is the super active and restless child. As my elder one was a calm child, I kind of expected the same with my second one but slowly we realised that she is completely different.
- It’s ok to make mistakes as a mom- As I wrote before, we moms feel guilty for something or the other especially when kids are small. Always remember, no one is perfect and you are doing a great job as a mom as you know the best for your child. I wish someone would have told me this before. There is no such thing as a perfect mother
- It will change you forever– As a mother, you need to have a lot of patience and all the qualities of a superhero as you have to get into different roles at different times. As soon as you become a mom, you are a changed person. I never knew my superhero qualities until I became a mom. Who knew a small bundle of joy can change me completely?
- Cherish every moment – The kids grow really fast and before you realise it, they will be ready to fly leaving an empty nest behind. Cherish all the moments with them till they are small. Play, laugh, go on a vacation, enjoy with them as these are all precious moments. As a mom of a teen and a tween, I wish they were small again. So, what are you waiting for? Go keep your phone down and enjoy yourself with them.
- Expect the unexpected- Nothing goes as planned when you have kids. I have learnt slowly to just leave some things unplanned. Too much planning never works with kids. I wish I knew to be prepared for the unexpected and not panic as a mom. So, motherhood is all about expecting things that you cannot even think about.
There are a lot of things that I wish I knew about motherhood before but as I said before, “Parenting is like on the job learning and no one can teach you to be a parent.”
What’s the fun in knowing everything beforehand Right? So, let’s think less and enjoy more with our little bundles of joy.
Do you have any things which you feel you would have known before about motherhood?
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November 6, 2017 at 5:28 pm
Nicely written! I agree that one should expect the unexpected when it comes to motherhood. Sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves and that never helps.
November 6, 2017 at 6:43 pm
I so relate to expect the unexpected
November 6, 2017 at 7:38 pm
So true.. already the world is hard on us moms and add to it hormones and a garnish of moms guilt. a potent combination there.
November 6, 2017 at 8:24 pm
Very true, I had also felt the same emotions during my 8 years of motherhood journey. it is really a hilarious journey, where we faced each day a wide spectrum of emotions.
November 6, 2017 at 10:57 pm
There is no way we can ever stop feeling guilty .What we can do is ust go on trying to do your best The cuddles are really the magical part.
November 6, 2017 at 11:00 pm
Totally agree that motherhood is such a beautiful journey where each day it is new discovery…Still i am discovering everyday with my daughter new things..exploring the innocence and expect the unexpected.
November 7, 2017 at 7:02 am
Parenting is never easy and has a huge amount of yo-yo-ing happening with it. Very well written post.
November 7, 2017 at 10:07 am
Well writte. i agree. never compare children. and thats what makes each child unique. motherhood surely has changed me as a person and i love it!
November 7, 2017 at 11:02 am
Thanks.
November 7, 2017 at 11:26 am
This resonated with me so much. Thank you for saying that it is ok to make mistakes too. We need to keep reminding ourselves of this and not be too hard on ourselves.
November 7, 2017 at 3:30 pm
I identify with the first point a lot. Both my kids are very different and it is sometimes tough to handle them together. Good points, Deepa. We have to be on our toes as mothers, always expect the unexpected.
November 7, 2017 at 10:13 pm
Thanks Varsh
November 8, 2017 at 2:31 am
i so agree with all the points and specially expect the unexpected part but motherhood is truly amazing
November 8, 2017 at 11:57 am
I completely agree with eveerything you have mentioned. Even with my boys. Both of them are completely different. And I have to carve out a different strategy to deal with both of them
November 9, 2017 at 12:56 am
Well written post! Can relate with the feelings. Each point you have mentioned is so relevant!
November 9, 2017 at 9:21 am
Thanks Charu
November 9, 2017 at 1:44 am
This is such an honest post Deepa. While reading it I was kind of nodding my head with each point.
November 9, 2017 at 9:22 am
Thanks Shipra
November 10, 2017 at 11:35 pm
Motherhood is indeed an on the job training kind of a deal. There’s no definitive rule book
November 10, 2017 at 11:46 pm
Yes Disha. Thanks
November 11, 2017 at 11:47 pm
I am always expecting the unexpected. Motherhood changes makes you so strong.
November 12, 2017 at 3:41 pm
Comparison is always the thief of joy! loved the post.