P for Poles apart
Both my daughters are poles apart. Now the mystery is how can two siblings be so different from each other? I think Influence of people, environment, and their choices all play a role when they are growing up.
My brother broke his leg as a child and I never broke a bone. My sister was always very social and extrovert but I was a shy child and we are just one year apart. These are small examples but I am sure, you all can relate to these examples in your families too. Mostly, out of two siblings, both will have completely different personalities.
Now, after few years of motherhood, I can see two completely different kids in my house which amaze me that despite sharing the genes of the same mother and father, the dissimilarities are so evident.
My elder one was always a very happy child, social, well mannered, and often I would get,’ “What a great mother you must be.” Such comments were common when I was raising my elder one. She was 3 years old when I and my husband were confident that we were ready for a second child, mainly as our elder one was one of those perfect babies.
I would say she spoilt us as parents and we thought parenting is easy as pie as she never bothered us with anything. So, when my younger one was born, without thinking we expected the similar sleeping patterns and eating habits.
My younger one is completely different, restless, cannot sit at one place for a long time, overactive, and always in a hurry to finish her work. In one word, Drama-queen who always have to have all the attention. 🙂
But I can’t complain as I believe that every child is beautiful and every child is different. I read somewhere that kids are like snowflakes, each beautiful but uniquely different. I appreciate that my elder one is responsible and down to earth. And, likewise, I appreciate that my younger one is smart and active. No matter their differences, I consider myself a lucky mom.I believe that every child is beautiful and every child is different in their own way #Parenting Click To Tweet
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April 19, 2017 at 12:27 am
every child is an individual and its great that they are different. I am an only child and I always longed for a sibling (who I secretly wanted to be like me, though)
April 19, 2017 at 9:41 am
April 19, 2017 at 10:37 am
Thanks for sharing.
April 19, 2017 at 11:57 am
Such a heartfelt post and I know it’s always like that dear. My nephews are twins but poles apart in behaviour and skills.
April 19, 2017 at 12:16 pm
Thanks Roma 🙂
April 19, 2017 at 12:24 pm
I read somewhere that kids are like snowflakes, each beautiful but uniquely different.
This is such a beautiful thought, Deepa.
My sister and I are poles apart, so much so that we don’t even look like sisters!:))) So I know what you mean!:)
April 19, 2017 at 12:58 pm
Thanks Mayuri 🙂
April 19, 2017 at 2:10 pm
Well, I guess, one goes on father and the other one on mother. And yes, my elder daughter changed my whole world when she was born and we as parents had almost forgotten to sleep after a baby. But my second child was totally calm. They all are miracles of God.
April 19, 2017 at 4:41 pm
Thanks Geethica 🙂
April 19, 2017 at 2:17 pm
What a lovely post. I’m wondering why you expected your children to be like each other when you were so different from your own siblings 🙂
April 19, 2017 at 4:43 pm
Haha..actually Kalpana..you are right. I never thought it this way when I became a mom. Thanks. 🙂
April 19, 2017 at 6:17 pm
Same here! I guess it’s God’s way of having some fun 😛
April 19, 2017 at 6:41 pm
April 19, 2017 at 6:33 pm
Well as said..I and my brother are totally opposite..He is more obidient and a bit scared of my mom but i am totally the opposite…Think that’s the suspense of life…Don’t you think we lose the magic we are the same
April 19, 2017 at 6:41 pm
April 19, 2017 at 7:08 pm
Hi Deepa poles apart is true .Thats why me and my sister ,we are very different.This difference makes it fun too !.I dont know about others but this opposite nature made my mom lose her temper a lot! Becaue the same things had two different effect on us!
April 19, 2017 at 7:16 pm
Thanks Amrita 🙂
April 19, 2017 at 7:39 pm
This is one aspect that I always ponder upon. How two children of the same parents, brought up exactly same can be poles apart in every way! Wise words from you Deepa. We must accept and appreciate each one’s uniqueness!
April 19, 2017 at 7:48 pm
Thanks for stopping by Kala 🙂
April 19, 2017 at 10:33 pm
me and my bro are absolutely exact opposites in almost every way – looks, sense of humour, political and religious values.
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April 19, 2017 at 10:48 pm
April 20, 2017 at 12:44 am
Would you like your children to be alike? How boring. How predictable. I love that my two are different. I can appreciate their best qualities.
April 20, 2017 at 9:02 am
April 21, 2017 at 12:04 am
My brother and I are so different..and describing as poles apart is the correct description, So you are bang on at that point. Whatever maybe the reason behind it though.
I loved the snowflake line 🙂 Such a cute and seemingly fit analogy. Thanks for sharing!!
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April 21, 2017 at 9:36 am
Thanks Pikakshi 🙂