If you judge other people, You have no time to love them- Mother Teresa.
I am a mom and I know how people judge us and it’s sad to see mothers judging other mothers too.
First of all, pregnancy and child birth is not an easy process. A big salute to all the moms for their courage and strength for bringing a new life into this world.
DON’T JUDGE HER AS SHE WAS GOING THROUGH A LOT AT THAT TIME.
Moms have to leave the kids and join their work after few months. It is very hard for moms to leave a child in a day care or with a nanny. They are always guilty conscious about it but they have to take this decision for many reasons.
DON’T JUDGE HER AS THIS IS HARDER FOR A MOM THAN ANYBODY ELSE.
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Moms are strict with their kids or yell at them. She also breaks down in between when nothing is going fine.
DON’T JUDGE HER AS IT’S ALL OVERWHELMING FOR HER AND SHE LOSES HER PATIENCE TOO AT TIMES.
They are judged for their child’s behaviour and all positives and negatives. If a child is doing well, nobody says anything but people are always ready to pin point the negative things.
DON’T JUDGE HER AS SHE HAS TO HANDLE MANY PEOPLE AND THEIR COMMENTS NOT ONLY AT HOME BUT OUTSIDE TOO.
If a mom leaves her job for her kids, she is judged for not following her career and in the eyes of others, she is ‘Just a mom’.
DON’T JUDGE HER FOR LEAVING HER JOB AS HER KIDS ARE HER PRIORITY THAN HER JOB OR CAREER.
It’s a moms fault if a child is a picky eater and is weak. Nobody sees how much she tries to feed her fussy eater and how many different things she tries with them.
DON’T JUDGE HER AS SHE ALSO WANTS HER CHILD TO EAT HEALTHY AND STAY HEALTHY.
Sometimes a mom goes out with friends for shopping or for a movie. She also likes to spend some alone time.
DON’T JUDGE HER AS SHE ALSO NEEDS A BREAK.
This Independence Day, let’s all pledge not to judge a mom for anything she does or doesn’t do, because whatever she does, it is best for her child.
Moms stop judging other moms, as everyone has a different parenting style.
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We need freedom from being judged as motherhood should be celebrated and not judged.
Do you think others judge moms?
Do you think whatever we moms do, it’s not right in the eyes of our elder ones?
Don’t you think a mom knows the best for her child?
How do you deal with the judgment and criticism?
August 14, 2017 at 10:40 am
Don’t judge a women just because she is ‘one’, women single handed can take care of many things no one can even dare to attempt – and still are snubbed as weaker sex!! Wonder why?
Lovely post Deepa – more power to women like you for motivating others to come out of comfort zones and do what are best in.
August 14, 2017 at 2:50 pm
Thanks Dipika for the kind words. 🙂
August 14, 2017 at 11:01 am
Loved this blog so much. It’s true if you judge other people, there is no way you will have time to find good in them. Especially in the times of motherhood when someone is already going through so much.
August 14, 2017 at 2:50 pm
Thanks Pooja for stopping by 🙂
August 14, 2017 at 11:43 am
Sahi me yar agar kuch negative hai to Sara fault maa ka hai, how weird
August 14, 2017 at 2:51 pm
Yes Monika..That’s the sad part. Thanks for reading 🙂
August 14, 2017 at 12:01 pm
Humans are always ready with our judgement. But trust me no mom is less or more. Mom is mom and she just love her child. Thats it. Thanks for sharing this lovely post with us.
August 14, 2017 at 2:52 pm
Thanks Jiya
August 14, 2017 at 7:54 pm
Every mom is best in her style and Parenting. Every mom has their own set of standard that we cant judge anyone who is less super or more super mom.
August 14, 2017 at 11:58 pm
Thanks
August 14, 2017 at 8:22 pm
Judging anyone is some I strive never to do. Great post!
August 14, 2017 at 11:58 pm
Thankyou
August 14, 2017 at 10:45 pm
You may agree or disagree but there is no right or wrong…very well said! Each child is different and each mom is doing her best in her own unique circumstances. Who are we to judge!
August 15, 2017 at 10:27 pm
Thanks Mahak.
August 14, 2017 at 10:50 pm
What is really sad, is that other moms also judge other moms!
We all are individual mums facing our own challenges- so we should empower one another!
Good write up, Deepa!
August 14, 2017 at 11:59 pm
Thanks Zainab
August 15, 2017 at 1:28 am
As moms, we are most susceptible to judgements. High time, moms get a break and independence from this. Wonderful post.
August 15, 2017 at 7:25 pm
Thanks Charu
August 15, 2017 at 1:32 am
People judge if you do something and even if you don’t. We must learn to ignore the world. New moms especially dont need the judgement. Early days of parenting are hard and new moms dont need the added stress.
August 15, 2017 at 7:26 pm
Thanks Nayantara
August 15, 2017 at 7:25 am
Wow, I so much loved this and this is for the whole world to listen that ” Do not judge a MOM”. She has so much to go through, so much to do for her family !
August 15, 2017 at 7:27 pm
Thanks Jhilmil ..glad you liked it 🙂
August 15, 2017 at 2:51 pm
Sometimes we forget that moms are humans with needs too! Shoutout to all the mamas out there!If you judge other people, you have no time to love them is such a wise quote! Let’s try to keep that in mind!
August 15, 2017 at 7:27 pm
Thank you
August 15, 2017 at 7:03 pm
I’m not a Mum but I see far too many mums out there judging other Mums and it’s not fair. What gives a time the right to judge another Mother when they are trying and doing the absolute best they can for their child. Less of the judgement from “superior” Mums out there!
August 15, 2017 at 7:28 pm
Thanks Ellie 🙂
August 15, 2017 at 8:47 pm
This is a very powerful post! I am really passionate about moms not judging other moms because at the end of the day we are all doing the best we can and no one has motherhood all figured out. There is not a magical right way to do everything. Thanks so much for posting this. Love it!!
August 15, 2017 at 10:26 pm
Thanks a lot, Toya..Glad you liked it 🙂
August 15, 2017 at 10:00 pm
I wish I could say that we weren’t there to sit in judgement of other people. But I think people perpetually judge other people to try to make themselves feel better about their own situations or positions. I wish this weren’t the case but it is. I am sorry when mothers get judged.
August 16, 2017 at 12:58 am
Loved the post. People are qhick to judge others. It is the easiest thing to judge someone and sadly moms do it to each other the most. I wish all mothers realised that is hard enough being a mom and every woman is doing her best, same as her. If only they are kind and not judgemental they will make it so much better for other moms.
August 16, 2017 at 7:07 pm
Agree..judge less and love more. Thanks.
August 16, 2017 at 10:10 am
This post made my day! Every mom is different and there are a million different ways to do a right thing. It’s so important for people to realise that being a mother is truly the toughest job on earth and its very easy to sit there and pass judgement. Instead, if they really wanna see how capable mothers’ can be, just show support and encouragement and watch her excel. Isn’t that what parenting and raising kind children all about?!!?
August 16, 2017 at 7:09 pm
Exactly..showing support and encouragement is very rare. People are quick to give their POV’S . Thanks Shubhreet.
August 16, 2017 at 7:34 pm
I agree to each and every point written in favour of mom. When a mom leaves her child in daycare, it is not easy for her but the necessity of that time. Be in joint or in nuclear family a mom is always being judged for her ways of upbringing the child.
August 16, 2017 at 9:07 pm
Agree Geethica. I hope it changes soon. Thanks.
August 16, 2017 at 9:06 pm
I agree with all you said in this post! I wrote a post about judging people in general because what I have learned is that judging others is more about you than it is about the person you are judging.
August 16, 2017 at 11:31 pm
Exactly..its about you than others when you judge somebody. Thanks Sheri.
August 16, 2017 at 10:14 pm
Couldnt agree more with you Deepa. Moms are being judged on every step. In fact they are judged right after they conceive to delivering the baby and then raising the child. There is no right or wrong in how she wants to do things but she is not left free to take her decisions without being judged.
August 16, 2017 at 11:33 pm
Yes thats the sad reality..Thanks Rakhi
August 16, 2017 at 10:27 pm
I try not to judge other people. Sometimes, I don’t succeed because I’m human. I always strive to be kinder, however.
August 16, 2017 at 11:34 pm
Yes Alice..its not easy but we should try to be nice. Thanks.
August 17, 2017 at 10:20 am
We really shouldn’t be judging anyone, much less Moms who have so much on their plates already without dealing with competition and put downs!
August 17, 2017 at 4:24 pm
Thanks Corinne for stopping by.
August 17, 2017 at 5:08 pm
There is no right or wrong way to parenting, you are bang on there Deepa. Enjoyed reading the post. We never know what the other person is going through
August 17, 2017 at 6:56 pm
Thank you.
August 17, 2017 at 7:01 pm
Wonderful article.We tend to judge moms about a variety of topics .Hopefully people will realize that all moms try their best.
August 17, 2017 at 8:43 pm
Thanks Amrita