My theme for #AtoZchallenge is parenting and I have already written 22 posts related to children and their overall development. As we are coming to an end of this series, I wanted to write something about moms too as I strongly believe- Happy moms means Happy family.
Mom-shaming- Judging moms for whatever they do or not do.
Body shaming exists for everybody, whether it’s a child who is underweight, overweight or a teenager who wears specs or braces. But today I am sharing my thoughts about Mom shaming and I am sure most moms will agree with me on this one. We are all judged for everything we do for our kids and family.
Our first experience with weight gain is during pregnancy and our whole body changes during those 9 months. But as a mom, I am proud of myself as it is not easy to carry a child for 9 months, delivery and of course motherhood has its own challenges.
At least during the first year, weight loss is the last thing on our mind as our whole life goes for a toss. But there will be people who will judge you for your weight gain, your appearance, and your lifestyle. I know it’s not easy to reduce post pregnancy weight and the last thing we want to listen after we had a baby is that we need to reduce our weight or go to a gym.
I have also experienced all this and I wanted to carry – ‘Just had a baby’ tag to stop others from judging me for my weight gain after my second daughter.
It’s high time we stop focussing on the weight of a woman and focus on other important facts. We need to understand that sometimes the weight gain can be due to some health problems too.
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A note for other moms– Just remember to be happy as it is your body and it doesn’t matter what others say. Love yourself and take care of your children.
I am writing about Parenting for A to Z challenge and sharing my thoughts as a mother of a teen and a tween. Sharing my personal experiences as a mom and hope to help other moms and also learn from them through this challenge. Read all posts here.
A for Affection
B for Believe
C for Confidence
D for Dance
E for Extracurricular
F for Food
G for Guilty
H for Hacks
I for Independent
J for Joint or Nuclear
K for Kindness
L for Looks
M for Money
N for Nutrition
O for Overprotective
P for Poles apart
Q for Questions
R for Reading
S for Summer Vacations
T for Temper Tantrums
U for Unwanted pressure
V for Visit
April 27, 2017 at 11:45 am
I remember how much Aishwarya Rai was body shamed, when she was in no hurry to lose weight after her delivery. It’s very wrong to do so, and I am glad you wrote about it, Deepa.
April 27, 2017 at 1:24 pm
Thanks Mayuri 🙂
April 27, 2017 at 2:08 pm
Absolutely true. At such a sensitive time, when some moms actually go through depression, body shaming is just not what they are looking for!!
April 27, 2017 at 2:44 pm
Thank you 🙂
April 27, 2017 at 2:23 pm
so nicely written Deepa. You have touched the ultimate chord with many mommies.
April 27, 2017 at 2:45 pm
Thanks Paromita for the like and comment..Glad you liked it. 🙂
April 27, 2017 at 3:55 pm
Mommy shamming is a trend nowadays! The older generation is pretty cool about weight gain. I was actually asked about weight gains by new mom’s like me than anyone else! All I said was ‘I am not in a race for Yummy Mummy contest’
Wonderful
April 27, 2017 at 4:33 pm
Agree Neha..moms do this to other moms and I liked your answer. Thanks:)
April 27, 2017 at 6:52 pm
sadly, as a doc, I can vouch that this still exists even in 2017. and it exists across both the educated and the lesser educated strata and is invariably, family members themselves who give the most snide and vicious blows.
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April 27, 2017 at 7:05 pm
Yes its very sad. Thanks Doc.
April 27, 2017 at 6:57 pm
Yes, this happens a lot, Deepa! I feel, anyway the mom must feel worried about her weight and then on top of that there are people who constantly remind her of her extra pounds!
Mom-shaming is a very common scenario that has been there ever since!
Cheers
BoisterousBee
April 27, 2017 at 7:05 pm
Thanks Geet 🙂
April 27, 2017 at 7:52 pm
I am so glad you picked up this topic love. I Gained crazy weight due to complications in my pregnancy and it was not st all easy shedding it. How I wished I was not judged for it.
April 27, 2017 at 8:02 pm
Thanks Roma 🙂
April 27, 2017 at 8:26 pm
yes Mom shaming is a thing although I haven’t heard that term for it. But mothers can never do anything right. They’re judged for how they treat their children, they’re laughed at for being fat from pregnancy as though mothers have time or energy to diet and exercise. Very nice post. Enjoyed reading.
April 27, 2017 at 8:36 pm
Thanks Kalpanaa for reading 🙂
April 28, 2017 at 5:06 am
Well said!
April 28, 2017 at 9:23 am
Thank you
April 28, 2017 at 10:00 am
Deepa you have a way of getting to the root of the problem.For th first two years after my daughter was born,I dont remember combing hair everyday!But it got better after that.Moms are always judged .
April 28, 2017 at 12:33 pm
Thanks Amrita:)
April 29, 2017 at 1:28 am
I so wish people mind their own business than poking their nose in others matters! I am so with you in this, Deepa!
April 29, 2017 at 8:55 am
Thanks Shalini 🙂