I wrote about mommy hacks in my previous post to makes a mom’s life easier. And, I feel if kids are independent then it’s a bonus for us moms. So, today sharing my thoughts about raising an independent child.

My elder one is pretty independent right from the starting. She completely studies on her own and only asks us if she really has any problem. When she was small, she was always ready to go with the guests who used to come to our house.  I remember my husband once got all emotional and said, “She is so independent and extrovert that when she grows up, she will leave us and go.”

And I must tell you that she was just 4 years old at that time. We still laugh whenever we remember this.

But, I really feel it’s good to be independent and not a clingy child. My teenager is so independent that she feels odd if we ask her if she needs any help with anything.

On the other hand, younger one was little clingy when she was small. But, I guess younger ones learn a lot from their older siblings. She is still learning to be independent and manage stuff on her own when I am not around.

I have seen a lot of incidents where kids are so dependent on the parents that they have a hard time coping up when they grow up and go to a hostel.

One of my relative’s son who is in engineering college had a hard time coping up with hostel life as he was completely dependent on his parents for everything. Imagine, parents of an 18-year-old boy being worried about him travelling in a local bus alone or waking him up in the morning for college. They wake him up by calling on the phone from another city. Isn’t it too much?

Well, these are just a few examples but there are a lot of such incidents after which we have decided not to make our kids dependent on us for anything.


The process of being independent is long sometimes but we need to teach them and guide them.  I know it’s easier said than done but believe me it’s worth it.

I am writing about Parenting for A to Z challenge and sharing my thoughts as a mother of a teen and a tween. Sharing my personal experiences as a mom and hope to help other moms and also learn from them through this challenge. Read all posts here. 

A for Affection

B for Believe

C for Confidence

D for Dance 

E for Extracurricular

F for Food

G for Guilty

H for Hacks