Terrible twos and Toddlers- I am sure these words remind all the parents of TEMPER TANTRUMS.
Do you think only toddlers throw temper tantrums? Think again.
There are two other T’s – Tween and Teen.
As a mother of a teen and a tween, I have seen it all and I believe temper tantrums are there at every stage of parenthood.
I agree ‘terrible twos’ is a tough one as it’s difficult to explain things to a 2-year-old. Tantrums and toddlers are like synonyms and it’s difficult to calm them and make them understand. My teenager was a very happy child and I don’t remember any major temper tantrums.
On the other hand, Tween gave me a hard time when she was two and I actually experienced terrible twos at that time. She would ask for stuff and demand it by crying loudly and sometimes would lie down and cry if we refuse for something. It is a complete transformation from a sweet angel to a devil child. 😀
Welcome to terrible two’s! That is what I tell all my friends who complain about their kids between 18-36 months.
Sometimes toddlers do it just for the attention and they throw a fit if they feel no one is paying attention to them.
It is very difficult not to give in when they do it outside in front of a lot of other people watching you. But the good news is that you are not alone and it is just a phase. Also, the main trick is to stay calm yourself and I know it’s easier said than done but it can aggravate the child.
As far as teens and tweens are concerned, if they want anything they will try to convince you why a particular book or bicycle or a gadget is good for them. It’s not as bad as terrible twos but each stage has its own challenges.
It is easier if we accept it and try to change us as parents too as sometimes we as a parent feel overwhelmed with everything. So, Encourage your kids, understand them, respect them and love them. I am sure there are much more ways but these work for me. 🙂
I am just sharing few tips from my experiences but it may or may not work for everybody. In the end its all about love and patience.
I am writing about Parenting for A to Z challenge and sharing my thoughts as a mother of a teen and a tween. Sharing my personal experiences as a mom and hope to help other moms and also learn from them through this challenge. Read all posts here.
A for Affection
B for Believe
C for Confidence
D for Dance
E for Extracurricular
F for Food
G for Guilty
H for Hacks
I for Independent
J for Joint or Nuclear
K for Kindness
L for Looks
M for Money
N for Nutrition
O for Overprotective
P for Poles apart
Q for Questions
R for Reading
S for Summer Vacations
April 24, 2017 at 7:29 am
I am already getting the glimpse of these tantrums from my 20 month old!! The other day he threw off the TV remote in anger – because i was trying to feed him a toast – and sent it’s parts flying!!
April 24, 2017 at 10:02 am
Welcome to this phase Tina. It is just a start but its a phase. 🙂 Thanks.
April 24, 2017 at 9:23 am
My first post for A-Z was about handling anger. I’d written tips to my teenage son on the same. Thankfully he has grown into a calm young man and does not get angry easily. However, as a child he did have his share of temper tantrums. It was a tough time for us but we sailed through it with patience.
April 24, 2017 at 10:03 am
Yes Vinodini with older kids also we experience all this but in a different way. Thanks for reading. 🙂
April 24, 2017 at 10:50 am
Oh yes, I’ve seen plenty of instances of these temper tantrums! Some of them last even beyond the teenage years!:))))
April 24, 2017 at 2:31 pm
Haha..Thanks Mayuri 🙂
April 24, 2017 at 12:11 pm
Didn’t face the tantrums at 2 dear as my boy has been a shy chap but things are changing now, at 7 he shows me all the temper tantrums and I device tricks to appease him.
April 24, 2017 at 2:32 pm
Yes..different kids can have different phases..Thanks Roma 🙂
April 24, 2017 at 2:19 pm
Managing a kid with tantrum is sooo difficult. I experienced that with my little cousin. All I realized from those incidents is I have absolutely no tact to handle a cranky kid.
April 24, 2017 at 2:33 pm
Thanks Raj 🙂
April 24, 2017 at 4:30 pm
A friend commented welcome to the terrible two phase when my daughter turned two and then I just waited for tantrums to be over… but as you said they just keep coming in new avatars!
April 24, 2017 at 5:14 pm
Yes Neha.it never ends. Thanks for reading 🙂
April 24, 2017 at 4:36 pm
Oh tell me about it..Having a 2 year everyday is total a new drama…I seriously don’t know how they come up with new tantrums everyday
April 24, 2017 at 5:14 pm
April 24, 2017 at 8:35 pm
O yes! I’ve witnessed such sights. When the child turns into Bin Laden mode and the parents are left with no other option than giving in to their demands! The situation becomes really tricky at that moment and I feel it is only one’s gut that can tell the right thing to do!
April 24, 2017 at 8:48 pm
Thanks Geet 🙂
April 24, 2017 at 10:04 pm
Wonderful how you are bang on with the tantrum advice too!.Staying calm is the key and the most difficult thing.Sometimes I want to throw a tantrum too!
April 24, 2017 at 10:23 pm
Haha Amrita..same here! Thanks for reading 🙂
April 24, 2017 at 10:20 pm
Ah! Terrible Twos are indeed terrible. I am really glad that my child is no longer in this stage and really empathize with moms who have kids in this phase. It’s really challenging to handle kids when they throw tantrums. Ignoring them and not giving in to their demands (tantrums) is what works best!
April 24, 2017 at 10:27 pm
Yes Shilpa..I am glad too but teenage has its own challenges. Thanks 🙂
April 26, 2017 at 2:54 pm
temper tantrums are the biggest problems of all moms. Your insights may help in dealing with it.
April 26, 2017 at 4:34 pm
April 28, 2017 at 10:35 am
Oh You Bet!! Tantrums that too on the least expected places.. a useful guude to tackle the issue. Thanks for sharing
April 28, 2017 at 12:27 pm
Thanks Dipika 🙂
May 5, 2017 at 4:33 pm
That phase has passed, at least the boys dont get any chance to throw temper tantrums these days. I used to really go wild when my elder son began showing signs of temper tantrums, I had dealt him with a lot of patience and had to forgo holding the younger one till I could settle the elder.
May 5, 2017 at 7:16 pm
Yes Menaka ..it is the trick. Thanks for stopping by 🙂